2018 Taught Me A Lot of Things

Now, just like last year, I am willing to continue the tradition of writing the lists of what this year has taught me, and 2018...damn, taught me a lot of things. I even consider I passed through my first quarter life crisis this year. I say 'first', cause who know it might me the second, but I wish it won't happen again.

2018, made me think and figure out life, made me declutter the mess I have and made me stronger more than I have ever been before. Funny, how a year could change a person, either they become what they always wanted or they become someone they never taught they could.

So, let's get into the lists! Here are things I learned from 2018:

1. People come and go

They always do. It's something you can't fight or change. Either they go because they wanted to chase their dreams or simply move to other city to start fresh or even being dead. At some point, people are going to leave, no matter how much you love them. Me personally, I left several people and life circle that has no longer give me positive impact for my mental health or happiness. I figure out that I no longer need them in my life because I realise that all this time they have been planting bad stuff in my mind and didn't help myself grow. So, no matter how precious they were back then, no matter how many years I've friends with them, I cut it off. I let them go and have their own path to something that I choose not be involved.

2. In the end, all you have is yourself

I used to think that I'll never be alone. I'll always have somebody to back me up. I have my parents, family, best friend, my boyfriend, so I never really worry about anything. But this year open up a new possibilities that I just knew could happen. I might be alone and I have to survive. I was so spoiled by my relatives present that I forget my ability for being independent. However, I invest more on myself. Be selfish for myself a little. Spare more time on myself.

3. Declutter my life

I just find out about the minimalism lifestyle at the end of this year through video on youtube. I watched them talking about minimalism and I swear I was so excited and inspired at the same time, and it was a really wonderful feeling. I decided to be a minimalist, but still trying to adapt by all the rules I wanted to apply in my life.

4. Sweet revenge might be the best feeling in this world

People use to mock and underestimate me and I used to be so angry about it, because I was a fool and emotional and uncontrollable. Now, whenever I listen to anyone who comment on my personal life, I just laugh. Literally. They have no idea what they are talking about and I don't wanna waste my time on explaining them about the truth, not because I don't want to humiliated them, trust me I do, I just don't wanna give them the feeling of how much they think they knew me, I don't want to give them information of my personal life, because I don't need their opinion and their mouth spreading the words to other people.

5. If you want it, you have to work for it

Whatever that is you want, you have to work for it. If you want a material things, you gotta have some money, you gotta work to own money. If you want a tittle, you gotta study and go to school and do homework and finish the thesis. If you want to be a good notary, you gotta go to a good college, study about land and taxes, do your internship, pass all the exam, walk through it all.

That's it everyone! Everything that came across my mind this morning. 2018 just 17 days away to leave us, make all the days count. I hope next year will bring me more and more lesson to learn and joy and happiness too. Wherever you are, I hope you do too.

xx, Nadia.


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